1 In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives,
2 as they observe your chaste and respectful behavior.
3 Your adornment must not be merely external—braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses;
4 but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God.
5 For in this way in former times the holy women also, who hoped in God, used to adorn themselves, being submissive to their own husbands;
6 just as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, and you have become her children if you do what is right without being frightened by any fear.
7 You husbands in the same way, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with someone weaker, since she is a woman; and show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered.

This week, we have discussed much about the meaning of marriage as God defines it and a broad view of how marriage should be valued in the church. We must start with God’s original intention for marriage to understand its purposes in our daily lives. But it is also important that we consider the daily practice of marriage and how to honor God in our marriages by practical means.

What are some tips you have heard for a healthy marriage? There is no shortage of opinions available to be found with a quick Google search. Here are a few from one such website: be independent; listen well; agree to disagree; keep a date night; don’t be overly controlling.

In the passage we read today, Paul gave some practical advice to honor God in marriage. Paul exhorted the women to live in such a way that their husbands could not deny their godliness and might be won over to the faith by observing their devotion. He exhorted the men to show the women honor and grace, connecting the way they lived with their wives to the effectiveness of their prayer lives.

As those seeking to honor God in our marriages, it’s important that we live daily in a way that honors God in both the big and small ways in our relationships. Yes, we should absolutely strive to have marriages that last a lifetime and in which we continually show love to our spouses. But it is also important to recognize that we reach the end goal of marriage by thousands of small steps along the way. As we live our marriages in love and selflessness, not only do we honor God and one another, but we also continue to take steps toward the lifelong marriages that God intends.

• What are some common tips you’ve heard for building a healthy marriage?

• How are you seeking to be faithful in the small moments of marriage so that your marriage will be healthy in the long-term?

• Pray and thank God for the gift of marriage. Ask Him to help you be faithful in the small moments of marriage, that your marriage will bring Him glory in a lasting way.

[1] "15 Key Secrets to a Successful Marriage." Marriage Advice - Best Marriage Advice & Tips for Couples. September 21, 2018. Accessed February 13, 2019. https://www.marriage.com/advice/relationship/15-key-secrets-to-a-successful-marriage/.