18 Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him.”
19 Out of the ground the Lord God formed every beast of the field and every bird of the sky, and brought them to the man to see what he would call them; and whatever the man called a living creature, that was its name.
20 The man gave names to all the cattle, and to the birds of the sky, and to every beast of the field, but for Adam there was not found a helper suitable for him.
21 So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and he slept; then He took one of his ribs and closed up the flesh at that place.
22 The Lord God fashioned into a woman the rib which He had taken from the man, and brought her to the man.
23 The man said,
“This is now bone of my bones, And flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman,
Because she was taken out of Man.”
24 For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh.
25 And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.

“Marriage made a lot of sense once upon a time, mostly when women didn’t have the same roles and rights as men, and were effectively private property (a societal legacy that still influences our oddly-upheld traditions of a bride being “walked down the aisle” and taking her husband’s last name). Women didn’t have access to the workplace, so needed financial security. Men had income, but needed heirs. The exchange was simple. (And during the Victorian era, we prettied it up a bit by convincing ourselves it was about “love,” too.)…And while folks might still be interested in reproduction, does marriage still play a role?”

These are the opening words of a post on Medium.com entitled, “Does Marriage Even Make Sense Anymore?” If the above definition and explanation is the sum purpose of marriage, then the writer’s question may be appropriate. Unfortunately, this way of thinking is more common in our society than we might like to believe.

However, as we see in today’s passage, marriage was not an invention of men and women for the purpose of societal order, but the creation of the God of the universe. Our approach to marriage will always be shaped by what we believe the purpose is for marriage. As those seeking to follow Christ in a culture where many align with the beliefs of the Medium writer, we must be careful that we allow God to define marriage for us and not seek to reshape it based on our own ideas.

• How have you been guilty of redefining the purpose of marriage based on your own ideas?

• How does following God’s definition of marriage provide a different goal in marriage than what many in the world believe it to be?

• Pray that your definition of marriage would be shaped by the God who created marriage for our good and His glory.

[1] Gage, Kris. "Does Marriage Even Make Sense Anymore? – Personal Growth – Medium." Medium.com. February 18, 2018. Accessed February 08, 2019. https://medium.com/personal-growth/does-marriage-even-make-sense-anymore-70e10f4d8c18.